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Mutual Respect – Poem

Mutual Respect

By Diana Arco

There’s a vision of perfection

In each one of us,

If you don’t understand mine,

It’s ok, I’m not mad,

We’re not obligated

To embrace each other’s visions

But we’re together

In this path of mutual respect.

There’s this artistry in my veins,

I cherish it deep within me.

You don’t understand my needs

But I let you be

For our freedom’s sake that visit us

Every moment of our lives.

So I don’t beg for acceptation,

I don’t have to at all,

But in this mutual respect

We experience in our time,

You’ll do your thing

And I’ll do mine

For it’s in my nature

This need of artistry expression,

And it’s in your nature

When there’s something

You just can’t understand.

I’am far away of your reach today,

And still we’re friends.

But one thing for sure is,

That my door is always opened for you,

If my craft someday finds a home,

Right there, in your heart and soul.

“All The Light, Life, Love, And Freedom From The Heart And Soul.”

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Why are people so rude? A life experience and my way to get it through with love.

Stop Being Rude

Greetings, everyone.

One night, some years ago, I found a friend and I was so happy having talks with him. We were expressing ourselves one to another, developing an amazing connection, but then it all changed.
My friend became so rude. He used to complain about everything, to get angry every single day, and our amazing talks were gone.
I used to lay down in my bed at nights, asking to myself… Why my friend became so rude with me? Did I do something wrong? What’s wrong? I just couldn’t believe that someone so dear to me was behaving like this.
I had doubts, anguished and helpless moments within myself. He was there, being rude and harsh and I was listening, in my heart I felt that was the right thing to do. Life taught me through the years how important it is the communication; that it doesn’t matter the mood of the people you love, they have this need to express themselves and send you a message that in their ignorance they are delivering it in a way that “it hurts you.”

I had two options. ( yes, you can always choose.)
1 Walk away
2 Help him

I really care about him! – I used to say to myself.
So I made my choice, but how to help him?
The heart and soul always find the way. I’m a life’s observer and I’ve been witness people’s behaviors. Observer of the “school of life” throught myself, my family, friends, and people around.
I also must say that I used to exchange books with my friend Mayra when I was in high school about “self- help”, “life”, “Emotions”, and thanks to her I discovered the “Alchemist” written by Paulo Coelho. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Alchemist_(novel) and he became my favorite writer. I’ve got also his book “The Warrior Of The Light” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manual_of_the_Warrior_of_Light and I bought all his books after that. There are writers with this amazing “touch” that when you read their words they are like food to the heart and soul.

So I decided to experience once more “the warrior of the light in me” and that helped me to find that “key” question that I needed to help my dear friend.

“Why are people so rude?”

I found these first:

– They only care about what they think or need or they believe their feelings are more important than the feelings of others.
– They have little or no patience for other people.
– They do not appreciate the differences in others.
– They are trying to shock those around them with their behavior.

But I didn’t feel these were enough reasons… I put them all together in one single word: “Ignorance”. We are secret “vaults” where we storage our pains, past experiences, and we keep them “private”. I have experienced that we have to open ourselves and make accessible the information from the vault to find the problem and get rid of it cutting it from its root.
But what happens when this information is not available? What to do?

I have experienced in my life:
– You can’t force anyone to do something they don’t want to.
– You can’t change people. You just can’t…
A change, an “awaken” that’s how I call it, must come within each people.

So, what to do when you are experiencing the rudeness of someone you love?

1. Don’t take it personally.
Just like I said before: it doesn’t matter the mood of the people you love, they have this need to express themselves and send you a message that in their ignorance they are delivering it in a way that “it hurts you.” But you always have the “choice” to get hurt or not. You are in charge of your own emotions, the emotions are not in charge of you.

2. Respect privacy and wait.
Stay away! Your dereast one will arrive at their own time.
“When they feel ready to talk.”

3. Confront the person
I have experienced in life many kinds of “confrontations”, I had to experience them to be able to choose what’s right.
Confront with love, not with anger. Yep, it’s easier to say it than to do it, but when you really care about someone, starting with yourself, because confrontations makes no good to anyone, reacting with love and understanding it’s the best gift ever.
Please, listen first… any single word can hold “everything”.

4. Restraint Yourself.
It takes practice, I know… just don’t get youself carry away into the drama. Even when they are accusing you, they are unfair with you, they are saying “lies” about you. I have experienced to always keep calm, think, “the truth is within me and it will prevail, it will come out.”

5. Be Concrete when you talk.
Look right to the eyes, talk from your heart, from your experience, your own love towards yourself and others… Don’t let your “guts” talk for you.
Write a letter, a poem, an statement, make a drawing. Be polite… some people misunderstand being polite with being stupid, but don’t let them win.

6. Love them.
Soap them with your kidness, the truth in your heart and soul.
We are not perfect, but some of us have been able to experience what others haven’t, and you can show them the example, not telling them what to do, but telling them you’ve been there before and you was able to awake, to change, and now you’re able to handle life’s situations better than before.

Hmmm, what about my dear friend now? He is not rude with me anymore 🙂 and he is always surprising me.
I Love You So Much!

Note: Please, be aware when words become physical hurt. When a man slaps, hits, and hurts a woman with his own hands and / or any other object, please walk away and get help. Don’t stay with this person because they will beat you up again. There are people who really need professional evaluation and help. Please, never hesitate to contact an authority.

Please, have this in your life:
love-is-not-rude

And some quotes from Paulo Coelho’s “The Warrior Of The Light”

“behind the mask of ice that people wear, there beats a heart of fire.”

“I’ve been through all this before,’ he says to his heart.
“ ‘Yes, you have been through all this before,’ replies his heart. ‘But you have never been beyond it.”

“Warriors of light are not perfect.Their beauty lies in accepting this fact and still desiring to grow and to learn.”

“From the moment we are born, people tell us that the world is like this and like that, this way, that way. It is natural that – for a certain period of time – we end up believing what we are told. But we must soon push these ideas aside and discover our own way of living reality.”

“However difficult it may be to accept what happens to us, one must understand that moments such as this give us the possibility for radical change in our behavior.”

“He who knows the treasure he has: his days and hours of life, which can change everything which goes on around him.”

“A warrior of light respects the main teaching of the I Ching: ‘To persevere is favourable.’
He knows that perseverance is not the same thing as insistence. There are
times when battles go on longer than necessary, draining him of strength and
enthusiasm.
At such moments, the warrior thinks: ‘A prolonged war finally destroys the
victors too.’
Then he withdraws his forces from the battlefield and allows himself a
respite. He perseveres in his desire, but knows he must wait for the best moment to attack.
A warrior always returns to the fray. He never does so out of stubbornness,
but because he has noticed a change in the weather.”

“A warrior of the light never picks fruit before it is ripe.”

Sincerely,
Diana.

“All The Light, Life, Love, And Freedom From The Heart And Soul.”

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Do what you love…

DO  What You LOVE

Sincerely,
Diana.

“All The Light, Life, Love, And Freedrom From The Heart And Soul.”

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Emotions = a very interesting fact.

Emotion

Greetings, everyone!

I remember, when I was ignorant than before, in the past, when I used to react “Emotionally” and “without thinking about the consequences” before any situation that was present in my life. I mean, I used to blame everyone, everything, and every time to all around me.
Yep. I used to say:
– “Why you make me feel this way, so helpless?” when someone broke my heart.
– “You make me cry!”
– “You make me mad!”
– “You make me feel worthless!”
– Etc, etc, etc,…

I remember I even used to get “sick” when I let my anger, my anguish, my ignorance to win over me… oh, poor tummy of mine… Paying for my broken dishes. I used to had “gastritis” “colitis” and ‘panic attacks” … until one day I said to myself: Ok, I had enough! No more!
And this when I was able to change my life.
What did I do? – You might ask-
I didn’t take any medicine
I didn’t go to the psychologist
I didn’t take any seminar about life
I “just” decided not to let my emotions to “win” over my self-being.
It’s so easy to say it, but it’s also so easy to take it into practice.
It took me a while, but every time I used to remember about how I was “hurting” myself , to know how ignorant and wrong I was, it gave me “wisdowm” and “courage” to do what’s right inside of my heart and soul.
But, what’s the formula, the magic trick in here?
There is none, at least nothing outside this world since we are who we are from the inside.
I got to a point when I “gave myself the freedom” to “prioritize” what’s more important in my life and it’s “Me”, and this doesn’t mean I’ve been selfish or unkind, either egoistic… it’s a way to love myself and to love the ones that are really important in my life.
I found out that I’am able to “control” in such a loving and smart way my “bad” emotions, so my body will not fall again into pain… and my peace of mind and heart too.
I must say, that controlling my emotions I’m not under any circumstances “ignoring them”, of course that I’am so aware of them, but it’s my knowledge, it’s having the power over the situations, to think, feel, experience, to be “consciouly” awake that “I don’t win anything when I let my emotions to win over me” “Absolutely anything!”
I have experienced that answering with anger creates more anger, so I “talk” instead of yelling.
I have learning to let go what I thought it was important to me, but at the end it was getting dusty mentally, phsycally, in all the aspects of my life.
I had to really understand what’s the meaning of “freedom” and “free will” to let myself and all my people around me to let them be themselves.
I had to learn to make a question and wait to get answers at their right time. “Let me know when you are ready, please.” It’s what I say now.
I had teach myself to experience the emotions as the way they are “Emotions” to help me also to get rid of my ignorance and fears.
I had to teach myself to always remain calm, even if someone else was calling me all the “#$%z%” words you can imagine; and embrace these people, and make them see how wrong they were. This is not easy to do, really it’s not, but when you really care about yourself and the others, you listen very carefully first, and then you just don’t “explode” and you are even able to calm people down and respect you, or they will walk away from your since they were not able to create such “damage” in you. This is according to my own experience from the last 4 years, when I finally understood.
I had to learn to accept what I’am and to change “anything” I wish for my own good.
I know we are not perfect and we are going to fall over and over into ignorance.
I know some people are more ignorant and smarter than others, but in this life we are all students and teachers, and we are here together to experience life.
Remember:
– You’re smart and beautiful
– You’re ignorant – not perfect, but you’re always learning.
– You’re here and now
– You can think and feel
– You are alive and breathing
– You always have the “choice”, not any choice, but the “consciouss” one.
– You can change the perspective – be optimistic, be energetic, be yourself.
– learn from the past and keep it there, the present it’s where you are.
– Love yourself, put yourself in the #1 of your list, embrace yourself, be there for you first, then for someone else.

Sincerely,
Diana.

“All The Light, Life, Love, And Freedom From The Heart And Soul.”

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Please, love yourself – A reminder.

I Love Myself

Greetings, everyone!

I bet you know how important it is to “Love Yourself” So, I’m not here to “teach” you “how”… I’m here just to remind you what you already know, and what an amazing way to do this that with a quote. I’am a quote collector myself, so I’am always in search for those ones that to my consideration makes sense to me, and here I’am sharing one of them with you that for me, in this moment, “it says it all”

From a man who is still making us “smile”.

“As I began to love myself I found that anguish and emotional suffering are only warning signs that I was living against my own truth. Today, I know, this is “AUTHENTICITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood how much it can offend somebody if I try to force my desires on this person, even though I knew the time was not right and the person was not ready for it, and even though this person was me. Today I call it “RESPECT”.

As I began to love myself I stopped craving for a different life, and I could see that everything that surrounded me was inviting me to grow. Today I call it “MATURITY”.

As I began to love myself I understood that at any circumstance, I am in the right place at the right time, and everything happens at the exactly right moment. So I could be calm. Today I call it “SELF-CONFIDENCE”.

As I began to love myself I quit stealing my own time, and I stopped designing huge projects for the future. Today, I only do what brings me joy and happiness, things I love to do and that make my heart cheer, and I do them in my own way and in my own rhythm. Today I call it “SIMPLICITY”.

As I began to love myself I freed myself of anything that is no good for my health – food, people, things, situations, and everything that drew me down and away from myself. At first I called this attitude a healthy egoism. Today I know it is “LOVE OF ONESELF”.

As I began to love myself I quit trying to always be right, and ever since I was wrong less of the time. Today I discovered that is “MODESTY”.

As I began to love myself I refused to go on living in the past and worrying about the future. Now, I only live for the moment, where everything is happening. Today I live each day, day by day, and I call it “FULFILLMENT”.

As I began to love myself I recognized that my mind can disturb me and it can make me sick. But as I connected it to my heart, my mind became a valuable ally. Today I call this connection “WISDOM OF THE HEART”.

We no longer need to fear arguments, confrontations or any kind of problems with ourselves or others. Even stars collide, and out of their crashing new worlds are born. Today I know “THAT IS LIFE”!”
― Charles Chaplin

Charlie Chaplin

Sincerely,
Diana.

“All The Light, Life, Love, And Freedom From The Heart And Soul.”

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You Had To Quit To Start To Live – Inspirational Poem.

Bird to Freedom

Greetings, everyone!
Happy Friday!

I felt the need to write a poem about a character who had to quit something to start to live, and I’m taking the freedom to share it with you today.
You know? We all have the choice to quit and start something new to achieve love and happiness.
We all deserve the best in life. We deserve respect as the human beings that we are.
Choices are seeds from the heart and they are there waiting to bloom in each one of us at their right time.
Make a choice for the better and save yourself from the dark path.

You had to quit to start to live-
Inspirational Poem.

Wonderer of all matters of the earth and the sky.
You had to quit something to start to live.
The discovering of a new way,
As a powerful human being within.
Once the choice lives
With the heart and soul,
and God’s blessings free given,
For such experiences that are arriving
Right to your senses, your reality,
Are there for you as you deserve them.

You, the writer of your own creation,
Your life, your thoughts, your consciouness awakenings
For the better, for the the ignorance and wisdom,
For those unique moments in the name
Of all that’s left behind,
But it’ll never be forgotten
Like that cherished heart from the past
That has been missed with tears in the eyes.

You’re such indivual of great courage
Or a huge despair or both.
Indivual of great love, madness,
And frustrations.
Indivual of great passion,
Explosion of emotions like stars to the moonlit sky.
You did what you had to do
In the name of all wonders
Starting with yourself.

Your days and nights
Your hours of meditations,
Still secrets and mysteries of your path.
Your moments of work and direction,
Definition and application of your structure,
Your light, life, love, and freedom..
You matter, you worth it, you deserve it.
You just didn’t quit, not precisely…
Because “You live.”

By Diana Arco.

“All the light, life, love, and freedom from the heart and soul. ”

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What’s a Delayed Gratification? It’s much more than a cookie!

COOKIE MONSTER DELAYED GRATIFICATION

Greetings, Everyone!

I was searching the internet (like every single day) when I found this video http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=b_ubVVnWglk Where English Actor Tom Hiddleston http://www.imdb.com/name/nm1089991/ teaches a lesson to the Cookie Monster.

“Good things come to those who wait.” or “The cookie taste better when you wait.”

I just felt the need to share this “knowledge” with you today. After all, it’s something we’ve been dealing with many times, but I thought: “This is a good reminder” to share with my followers in my blog.

Now, to get deep into the matter, this is the “psychology concept” of the delayed gratification.
“Is the ability to resist the temptation for an immediate reward and wait for a later reward.
It’s also associated with resisting a smaller but more immediate reward in order to receive a larger or more enduring reward later.”

For a better understanding about this concept http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Delayed_gratification

It’s amazing, in my experience, I’ve been able to apply this concept not knowing I was doing it.
-“How?”- You might ask.

Some examples:
– Saving some money now to spend it later: You break your back at work. Don’t waste your money now… It’s better to know how to enjoy it. I wonder about all the times you said: “I wish I was able to see “that” before getting “this”! So… What I do to avoid this unpleasant moment?… Simple: For example, in a shopping mall…I visit all the stores, then I decide what to get. Sometimes I need something, others it’s just a gift to myself. Also… and this one is important! It’s so amazing when you know what you want to buy and you see the same item in different stores under different prices! Even when you feel tired of so much walking you’ll be grateful with your “wallet”.. I mean… your choice.

– Stop and think to choose what’s really important to you: Life, love, jobs. You have always the choice “Freedom” to search, find out, your purpose in this world. BTW! You are the most important “You” in your life. You must be always at the top of your list.. Why? You gotta be the first. Your #1 in everything: Love yourself first to love others. Give yourself a gift first to appreciate it to then give a gift to others. Learn yourself first to teach others.

– Clarify and define goals: a clear understanding of what you want to achieve in a longer-term. All those steps that are going to take you right there, to your ultimate goal. And as you have experienced before… You Are Not Alone! Your goal can be important to someone else, so they’ll jump into your boat.

There are many more “experiences in life” but I just took the freedom to share these ones with you.

So, my friend. I need to tell you this before closing my today’s post:
This the chance you have to use your willpower in a consciously way! The experiences that you patiently wait for and look forward they become much more colorful and memorable than you could ever imagine.

– The Food tastes so much better when you wait for it.
– That day in the movie theater is always enjoyed more when your work is done.
– You pay with cash instead with credit: What you have it’s what you spend. You can use your credit for those difficult and special situations that really requires it.

Delayed gratification gives you the freedom to see the big picture and how everything you do contributes to it. You are creating your own “domino” effect! One piece falls after the another with just a push. Your life’s linked sequence of events, but this time you are experienced them more aware about yourself, your life’s situations, and what’s around you.

Sincerely,
Diana.

🙂 All the light, life, love, and freedom from the heart and soul. ❤

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